Losing a friendship can be tough for teenagers, as they may have invested a lot of time and energy into the relationship. Here are some ways you can help your teenager cope with the end of a friendship:

Tips For Supporting Your Teen Through A Friendship Breakup:

  1. Listen and validate their feelings: Allow your teenager to express their feelings about the situation. Let them know that it’s normal to feel sad, hurt, or angry. Validate their emotions and provide a safe space for them to talk about what they’re going through.
  2. Encourage them to talk to someone: If your teenager is having a hard time coping with the end of the friendship, encourage them to talk to someone they trust, such as a therapist, counselor, or a trusted friend or family member. Sometimes, talking to someone who is not directly involved in the situation can provide a fresh perspective.
  3. Help them find new interests: Encourage your teenager to explore new interests and hobbies. This can help them take their mind off the situation and provide a sense of purpose. (We’re staving off boredom these holidays by signing our teen up to every netball clinic and fun day in our area, keeping her busy and active and hopefully distracted from her intense hurt). 
  4. Teach them coping skills: Help your teenager develop coping skills that can help them deal with difficult emotions. This could include techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or journaling.
  5. Model healthy coping behaviors: Your teenager will learn a lot from how you cope with difficult situations. Model healthy coping behaviors such as taking care of yourself, seeking support when needed, and finding healthy ways to manage stress. (This is such a tough one for me because I naturally want to lash out as a defense mechanism. Motherhood has taught me that I am capable of absolute cruelty when it comes to protecting my child and I have to work against that instinct daily at the moment! )

The hardest part for me is remembering that it’s important to be patient and supportive during this time. With time and support, your teenager will be able to move forward and form new friendships.